While there's the desire to show compassion to everyone we meet, a side of you also seems to feel otherwise for some people. You find it easier to dislike them because their existence irritates you. But what is it about them that you find irritating?
Learning how to be selfless is difficult. It is a challenge not because you don't want to do it, but because you've become too focused on yourself.
When you begin to demand things to be like this and like that and don't get away with what you want, you feel you are not getting what you deserve.
But have you ever thought of the fact that maybe the problem is not other people? Perhaps the problem is that you demand too much from others.
Learning how to be less selfish all begins by recognizing the moments when you are most self-centered. These moments usually come in the form of thoughts before you decide to turn them into actions and reactions.
Here is a list of the selfish thoughts that fill...
Creating beautiful things out of the ordinary is one of the best gifts humans have. Creative building inspires people to look at the simple and make something beautiful out of it. Ordinary situations are turned into learning opportunities whenever creative minds start to wonder about something new.
Creativity, after all, is all about finding new approaches to things. It is about learning how to make something new out of a given situation. While others may think that it’s a gift restricted only to artists, writers, musicians, it is actually a life process that applies to everyone.
How do you give yourself a creativity boost? Here are some creative thinking activities that can help you:
The first and most crucial step to take is for you to give creativity some time. Devote an hour or two of your days to developing your creative abilities. Do not put off your effort and think that the muse will just come to you. It is something...
When you have a task on hand that you really don't want to do, how do you make yourself do it? Sometimes, when you tell yourself to suck it up, it works. Your fear of failure or of getting in trouble with your higher-ups is enough to motivate you.
However, there are other times when you procrastinate and decide to push the task to a later time. You think you have a lot of time in your hands to do it . . . until you don't. Instead, you need to teach yourself how to motivate your mind and push forward to complete the task.
Procrastinating at work has become a common problem among office people. They put off doing the work that needs to be done for several reasons. Some say that they are in no mood to work and that the feeling will just pass. But then when this behavior goes on for days, weeks, and months, time is no longer on their side.
But why are there tasks that people simply dislike...
When you are setting out to work on something significant, you look into the task plan out how to achieve it in the fastest possible way. You focus your mind on it, and something interesting truly happens. It's like you've been transformed into a productivity machine.
But it isn't always as easy as that. Putting everything you've got into one task can take its toll on you. Eventually, you may feel like your focus is pulled in several different directions, and you feel ungrounded deep inside. This feeling can divert your attention from your responsibilities and goals, leaving you emotionally drained.
What are you going to do? How are you going to get back on track?
Since our minds are trained to always seek for stability, it has become a challenge to accept that their lives are currently unstable.
When you easily give in to distractions and cannot seem to focus, you can consider yourself unstable. Some people turn to...
How do you spend your days when it seems you have more time in your hands? Perhaps this thought never crossed your mind because you never really had the chance to stop and smell the flowers. With all the things that you need to get done, there isn’t any time to stop and meditate.
But it isn’t the packed schedule or the long list of things-to-do that hinder you from enjoying your sweet spare time. You have become afraid of having some extra time in your hands because you don’t know what to do with it.
You have become afraid of the empty space in your life.
The busy schedule, constant distraction, the lack of focus, and the lack of satisfaction in your life often leaves you with so much more than you can handle.
You end up running from one task to another. Instead of enjoying the spaces between the tasks, the moments of solitude and stillness, you end up filling the gaps with activities. You think of something useful to do. You have...
There are seven chakras: Muladhara, Svadisthana, Manipura, Anahata, Vishuddi, and Ajna. Each chakra correlates to a specific location on your body, starting from your coccyx, to just below your navel, above your navel (your belly), your heart, your throat, and the top of your head (your crown).
Many cultures believe that energy travels through the body, similar to how our blood flows. This energy moves much like the wind, or a stream, and is continuously in flux.
A chakra is an energy center or a point in the body where life-energy tends to form and gather. In Hinduism, this energy is called Prana, and in traditional Chinese culture, Qui.
Balanced chakras can be a source of some of our most noble feelings, and allow us to express our Higher Self.
Imbalanced chakras can cause excess fear, anger, confusion, chronic pain, and even a loss of self. This happens when a chakra is wounded (your heart, for example). An imbalance can...
A lot of joy can be found if only people lived with a zen state of mind. The philosophy behind this practice is pretty simple: you are looking at old problems with fresh eyes. It is like embracing the concept of a beginner's mind. You always look at things and situations as if it were the first time you encountered them.
To have a beginner's mind is defined as having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and the lack of preconceived notions about the subject matter at hand. When you already know practically everything about it, a beginner's mind can provide you with fresh eyes to see beyond what you've always been used to.
Having an attitude of a beginner is healthy and beneficial most of the time. Oftentimes, when people become knowledgeable within a specific field or area, they often overlook things. Because they believe they are already experts, they are blinded, so it becomes challenging to look at...
How much confidence do you have in yourself and your abilities? If you often find that you’re unable to pursue your goals because of self-doubt, then you’re probably missing out on a lot of opportunities.
Trying new things can be daunting, and they can intimidate you to the point that you’d rather not try at all. It’s most likely because you’re afraid to fail. Sometimes, we become convinced that if we don’t try, we’ll never fail. But all that this kind of thinking does is hinder our growth.
For us to achieve success, we have to challenge ourselves to take some risks. The importance of believing in yourself is that you become aware of your capabilities and begin to have the courage to pursue whatever it is that you want to do.
Trust yourself that you can take on new challenges and learn what you need to know so you can successfully accomplish any tasks you may have. You may think that sure, it’s...
What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the term "flexibility?" Many will immediately think of yoga poses or rubber bands. Others might consider pilates positions or taffy. But very few will actually think about flexibility in terms of thoughts.
But what if flexible thinking is what you need to achieve good health? What if it's that flexibility in the mind that will help you achieve overall wellness in the body and well-being. With careful practice, you can develop that agile mind. You will be able to elevate your experience.
Through mental flexibility, you will be able to teach yourself to become more resilient and creative. In the process, you will be able to achieve a happy heart and an even happier life.
The cognitive flexibility theory talks about how you can bend your thinking to give way to new perspectives. It is grounded in the goal that you are aspiring for balance in your life. Between control and spontaneity, you...
If you often find yourself stressed about your home because it’s so messy, know that there’s something you can do about it. You’ve already probably heard or seen signs that say “clean as you go.” Maybe you can try applying this practice in your own life so that you can minimize the stress you experience whenever you’re confronted with so much clutter.
The principles of cleaning are simple, and you can apply this system not just in organizing the clutter in your home, but also to have a clutter-free and clean mind. Once you understand the clean-as-you-go principle, you can use it at work, school, managing finances, and other vital areas that need decluttering and organization.
The clean-as-you-go principle is very easy to understand and practice. In your home, for example, you don’t wait for the whole house to be a mess before cleaning it. You may think that you...